Dear Parents,
Your marriage is not your children marriage.
The fact that your marriage failed doesn’t mean theirs will.
The fact that yours succeeded also doesn’t mean theirs will, too.
Everything depends on their intentionality, introduction of light, personal introspection, and decision.
If you had a failed marriage, it is important to not inflict the pain on its failure on them.
I know you’d feel better sharing your stories and want the best for them but all these ‘men are scum, women are selfish, fear men, fear woman’ generalization is not doing them any favour. That fear would make them make wrong decisions. Why? They will base their values or standards on your fear. Your marriage would become a yardstick for them that even when they find a good person, they might blow it.
It would be best you heal from the hurt, think about what went wrong, and guide them on the right way to go from the lessons you’ve learnt. Also, pray to God to direct them and help them make good judgement. Prayer works, I can assure you that.
If you had or have a successful marriage, the same thing goes. You have to intentionally show them the right way to go. The fact that yours is succeeding is a great advantage because you’ve been able to model what a Kingdom marriage looks like. Children learn more from what they see rather than what they hear.
I trust the Lord to help you. I know that being a parent is not an easy task. We see your works and pray the Lord to give you the strength and wisdom to carry on.
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