I remember when my brother was much younger. My sister and I would try to get him to do his homework but it would be to no avail. We would shout, and threaten him but it wouldn’t work. He would just keep staring at us and the book.
A few weeks ago, he told me to spell a word. I said okay. While I spelled it, he wrote it down. I was impressed and stunned. I quickly told my sister when she got home of the good news, and she said something.
“Back then, the issue wasn’t that he didn’t want to write, the issue was he didn’t know how.”
He has been taught in school and now it comes easily to him. He teaches his invisible students how to write the alphabet and other words on the whiteboard at home.
Listen, sometimes, the reason why your partner isn’t doing what you ask them to do isn’t that they don’t want to. It is because they don’t know how. So what do you do? You teach them how. Show them how.
If you want them to spend more time with you, spend more time with them. If you want them to get you a gift, tell them the gift you’ll love them to get you. You can even tell them where to get it. It makes life easier and sweeter for both of you.
Your partner will even begin to pass down this love you’ve taught him to your children, his siblings, and other people around him.
Everyone came from different backgrounds and has been shaped by different circumstances. In the past, I didn’t know how to hug. I found it strange until I went out with a friend and before we departed she said, “I need a hug.” When I hugged her, it felt very nice. I saw her again recently, and this time I initiated the hug. I was very happy.
Teach your partner how to love you and be patient. Don’t carry grudges about things they didn’t do. Some people sincerely don’t know how to.
Remain blessed in Jesus name.
Written by Ifunanya Eze.